I still don't know how much I'm going to make on a normal paycheck (I did get paid on time this week, but it was weird because none of the 403(b) or tax withholding paperwork had gone through yet) so I can't work out a proper budget until the end of the month. But I was thinking today about the different ways people can use a budget.
Right now I'd say I see a budget as a disciplinary tool. If I want to save X amount, then I only have Y amount to spend. I've set my various discretionary budgets (groceries, entertainment, that kind of thing) pretty low, low enough that I am constantly at a low level of stress about them. Sometimes that works out pretty well. Like, today I really wanted to stop on the way home from work and buy a scone or a brownie or something. But I knew that would be in the range of $3 and my food budget for the month is on the brink of not making it. So I came home instead and made brownies with stuff I already had. But a lot of mental energy went into that decision!
I can envision another way of budgeting that would be a lot more relaxed. Right now I've set my food budget at $250 a month, and I also have $50 "pocket money" a month, and I suspect about half of that will end up going to food too. Probably, if I set my food budget at $400, I would occasionally have to stop and think, and I certainly wouldn't be booking reservations at Per Se. But I also would be able to pretty much pick up whatever I wanted in terms of groceries, and eat out a couple of times a month in a low-key way. If I set it at $500, I could have all those things and I'd probably have money left in the category to roll over and save up for big events like hosting Thanksgiving or something.
In that case, budgeting is less a tool to keep the less than totally frugal in line, and more a way to roughly allocate income to different categories. If I magically start making more money next year, I'd like to switch to that way of budgeting; what I'm doing now is good for me in some ways (I probably didn't need that scone anyway!) but also really is a kind of permanent stressor.
How do you use your budget? Is it more about restraining you from reasonable things that you can't afford, or more about giving guidelines?
Friday, July 18, 2014
Wednesday, July 16, 2014
Personal finance and personal crisis
I just read a beautiful reflection on the writer's father's death. It's behind a paywall, but I'll link the full thing below just in case. There were a number of very striking passages, but this jumped out at me given the last six months' worth of developments in my life:
It's not the same position, but I recognized that instinct, that sense, in the midst of crisis and even trauma, that putting your finances in order is the thing to do. Money's not the real problem, in either case, but the real problem is unsolvable; in the meantime, you can get your head around balancing the checkbook or making the budget.
The article is Dave Byrne, "My Father's Files".
I might have mentioned in passing that what inspired my retirement account, my dedication to debt payoff, and this blog (all born at the same time in March) was a bit of a mental health crisis. No need to be alarmed -- no hospitals were involved -- but it definitely qualified as a major event. I was, and am, having a lot of trouble dealing with life instability, and I'm haunted by depression.
Many years ago, an old friend—an artist who deals with the alchemical—told me that after his father’s death he left the hospital, went home, sat down at his desk and, for the first time in his life, balanced his checkbook. I asked him how that went.Good, he said. I had more money than I thought.
It's not the same position, but I recognized that instinct, that sense, in the midst of crisis and even trauma, that putting your finances in order is the thing to do. Money's not the real problem, in either case, but the real problem is unsolvable; in the meantime, you can get your head around balancing the checkbook or making the budget.
The article is Dave Byrne, "My Father's Files".
Friday, July 11, 2014
It's an Honor Just to be Nominated!
I got a really nice surprise in my comments the other day; a blog that I enjoy, Downstairs and In Debt, had put my name up for a Liebster Award (and said something very kind about my writing!)
As she explains in her post, this is meant to highlight some smaller blogs, like the one belonging to yours truly, and provide a little networking goodness. There are two conditions of accepting this award -- one of which is to nominate five more blogs, and one of which is to answer a few questions posed by my nominator. I am happy to do both!
So, without further ado, here are five of my favorite smaller PF blogs (I tried to avoid nominating blogs I'd seen nominated elsewhere, but I'm not sure I did a perfect job at that!)
1) Alicia at Financial Diffraction -- Alicia's blog might actually be on the "big" side for this award (I feel like I saw something somewhere about 200 twitter followers, and she's got more than that) but I'm going for it anyway. Alicia is sensible, down to earth, and, like me, trying to figure out debt repayment and retirement savings after WAY too much graduate education. I love it when I see she's updated.
2) The Budget and the Bees -- this is a new blog for me; I found it following a link from someone else's comments (I find a lot of blogs this way.) I like her style -- both in terms of writing and in terms of her thinking about loans, life, and spending.
3) Liz at Budgeting for More -- worth it just for the recent post on games ;)
4) Indebted and in Debt -- written from the perspective of a woman who would like to stay home with her kids, but can't afford it. It's a very different set of problems than I have, but it's a really raw and emotional blog, and it's easy to sympathize.
5) Cindy at Growing Her Worth -- not updated all that often, but I wanted to mention it because we mid-30s single women living in the midwest have to stick together!
The first few weeks I was reading PF blogs I did read a lot of "big" blogs and "how-to" posts, but I definitely have gravitated towards blogs that are more ongoing inner narratives, with regular people sharing their ups and downs and just brainstorming about options.
Now, here are the questions:
1. What is the best advice you've been given/read since starting your blog?
--I got a lot of very thoughtful emergency fund advice. But I'd say the most useful overall advice was that I should not wait until I was out of debt before starting a retirement fund.
2. What is your favorite book?
--Oh, I'm bad at questions like this. It might be Middlemarch. Which is actually a great book for PF bloggers to read, come to think of it. I should do a post on that.
3. What is the one food you can't say no to?
--Coffee! Does coffee count? Oh man, I start looking forward to my morning cup around 2 pm the previous afternoon. If beverages don't count, then I'd have to go with bacon.
4. Who has been your biggest supporter through your debt repayment (or blogging) journey and why?
--Well, hardly anyone IRL knows about the debt repayment thing. I did mention to various people this year that I had some student loan debt, but not how much. I started blogging in large part because I wanted to try to connect with other people about this, but without boring all my RL friends. :) So, I would have to say that my "biggest supporter" has actually been everyone who's commented on my posts. I am not making a huge effort to promote my blog elsewhere, so predictably I don't have a lot of comments, but I treasure each and every one :)
5. Do you keep your Cheese Whiz in the fridge or in the cupboard after you've opened it?
--I solve this problem by not eating Cheese Whiz. Actually I'm not sure I've ever even tasted it; it just seems gross to me. I keep my peanut butter in the cupboard, though (my parents always kept it in the fridge growing up and I used to hate how hard it was to spread it.)
Thanks again, Downstairs and in Debt!
So, without further ado, here are five of my favorite smaller PF blogs (I tried to avoid nominating blogs I'd seen nominated elsewhere, but I'm not sure I did a perfect job at that!)
1) Alicia at Financial Diffraction -- Alicia's blog might actually be on the "big" side for this award (I feel like I saw something somewhere about 200 twitter followers, and she's got more than that) but I'm going for it anyway. Alicia is sensible, down to earth, and, like me, trying to figure out debt repayment and retirement savings after WAY too much graduate education. I love it when I see she's updated.
2) The Budget and the Bees -- this is a new blog for me; I found it following a link from someone else's comments (I find a lot of blogs this way.) I like her style -- both in terms of writing and in terms of her thinking about loans, life, and spending.
3) Liz at Budgeting for More -- worth it just for the recent post on games ;)
4) Indebted and in Debt -- written from the perspective of a woman who would like to stay home with her kids, but can't afford it. It's a very different set of problems than I have, but it's a really raw and emotional blog, and it's easy to sympathize.
5) Cindy at Growing Her Worth -- not updated all that often, but I wanted to mention it because we mid-30s single women living in the midwest have to stick together!
The first few weeks I was reading PF blogs I did read a lot of "big" blogs and "how-to" posts, but I definitely have gravitated towards blogs that are more ongoing inner narratives, with regular people sharing their ups and downs and just brainstorming about options.
Now, here are the questions:
1. What is the best advice you've been given/read since starting your blog?
--I got a lot of very thoughtful emergency fund advice. But I'd say the most useful overall advice was that I should not wait until I was out of debt before starting a retirement fund.
2. What is your favorite book?
--Oh, I'm bad at questions like this. It might be Middlemarch. Which is actually a great book for PF bloggers to read, come to think of it. I should do a post on that.
3. What is the one food you can't say no to?
--Coffee! Does coffee count? Oh man, I start looking forward to my morning cup around 2 pm the previous afternoon. If beverages don't count, then I'd have to go with bacon.
4. Who has been your biggest supporter through your debt repayment (or blogging) journey and why?
--Well, hardly anyone IRL knows about the debt repayment thing. I did mention to various people this year that I had some student loan debt, but not how much. I started blogging in large part because I wanted to try to connect with other people about this, but without boring all my RL friends. :) So, I would have to say that my "biggest supporter" has actually been everyone who's commented on my posts. I am not making a huge effort to promote my blog elsewhere, so predictably I don't have a lot of comments, but I treasure each and every one :)
5. Do you keep your Cheese Whiz in the fridge or in the cupboard after you've opened it?
--I solve this problem by not eating Cheese Whiz. Actually I'm not sure I've ever even tasted it; it just seems gross to me. I keep my peanut butter in the cupboard, though (my parents always kept it in the fridge growing up and I used to hate how hard it was to spread it.)
Thanks again, Downstairs and in Debt!
Gleaning
On Wednesday I left the office a little earlier than normal and drove about ten minutes out of town to a U-pick orchard. It's sour cherry season here in the midwest, and an amazing fruit for pie and jam, which sells for well over $5 a pound in New York, was going for $1.40 a pound here...if I provided the labor of picking them. Thrown in with the price: washing water and putting the cherries through a really cool industrial pitter. It looked something like this, although much more battered and antique:
I got to the orchard at about 3 pm. When I drove up, they handed me a 5-gallon bucket and pointed me towards the trees, warning me that it was getting towards the end of the season and there weren't a lot left. This turned out to be true; a lot of the most easily accessible cherries were long gone. Many trees were stripped nearly bare from the ground to the height a tallish person could reach. (After the u-pick season closes, probably tomorrow, professional pickers come in with more equipment and get everything that's left, including the many, many cherries above person-height.)
It was a perfectly sunny afternoon, not too hot, blue sky, clouds, and there were only a few other people out picking. I took my bucket and wandered towards the back corner of the orchard. I don't think there were any entirely untouched trees, even back there, but there were more cherries for sure, so I started to pick. Because it was so late, most of the cherries weren't at a height that was natural for me, so I spent a lot of time reaching up and down and twisting to duck between branches and get cherries that were a little less accessible.
I'm not that romantic about farm work -- it's really hard, often brutally underpaid, and I have mad respect for anyone who does it all the time; I can't imagine what it does to the body over the long term. But I have to say, it was an incredibly pleasurably hour. It was so quiet back there, just a few human voices, no traffic sounds, and it was so satisfying to be doing work that I knew would directly lead to some really fantastic pies over the course of the summer! I spend so much of my time, both work and personal, disconnected from the outside; my current office doesn't even have a window. It felt great to just bathe in it, to be completely centered in the moment. Without planning to, I started to meditate, thinking about the concept of gleaning. Before the advent of modern industrial machinery, even the most professional harvesters always left something behind in the field. The task of gathering in the last scraps of edible food was usually left to women and children. I'm not as poor as the poor Leviticus speaks of, but I did think about all the women who had gone through fields before me, for thousands and thousands of years, bringing home the fruits of their labor, all the harvest that the first pass hadn't bothered to collect.
This is what 17 pounds of sour cherries look like, by the way, after they've been pitted and portioned out into quart bags for freezing.
I got to the orchard at about 3 pm. When I drove up, they handed me a 5-gallon bucket and pointed me towards the trees, warning me that it was getting towards the end of the season and there weren't a lot left. This turned out to be true; a lot of the most easily accessible cherries were long gone. Many trees were stripped nearly bare from the ground to the height a tallish person could reach. (After the u-pick season closes, probably tomorrow, professional pickers come in with more equipment and get everything that's left, including the many, many cherries above person-height.)
It was a perfectly sunny afternoon, not too hot, blue sky, clouds, and there were only a few other people out picking. I took my bucket and wandered towards the back corner of the orchard. I don't think there were any entirely untouched trees, even back there, but there were more cherries for sure, so I started to pick. Because it was so late, most of the cherries weren't at a height that was natural for me, so I spent a lot of time reaching up and down and twisting to duck between branches and get cherries that were a little less accessible.
I'm not that romantic about farm work -- it's really hard, often brutally underpaid, and I have mad respect for anyone who does it all the time; I can't imagine what it does to the body over the long term. But I have to say, it was an incredibly pleasurably hour. It was so quiet back there, just a few human voices, no traffic sounds, and it was so satisfying to be doing work that I knew would directly lead to some really fantastic pies over the course of the summer! I spend so much of my time, both work and personal, disconnected from the outside; my current office doesn't even have a window. It felt great to just bathe in it, to be completely centered in the moment. Without planning to, I started to meditate, thinking about the concept of gleaning. Before the advent of modern industrial machinery, even the most professional harvesters always left something behind in the field. The task of gathering in the last scraps of edible food was usually left to women and children. I'm not as poor as the poor Leviticus speaks of, but I did think about all the women who had gone through fields before me, for thousands and thousands of years, bringing home the fruits of their labor, all the harvest that the first pass hadn't bothered to collect.
This is what 17 pounds of sour cherries look like, by the way, after they've been pitted and portioned out into quart bags for freezing.
Tuesday, July 8, 2014
Paying Yourself First
So, having my student loans paid off is still settling in, mentally; I find myself double-checking in mint, just to make sure, you know, that they're really gone. And also to look a little despairingly at the credit card balance still remaining, which is going to take longer to ditch; if only I'd had just one more month at my old rate of pay.... Oh well.
But that sort of brings me to what I want to talk about today: what worked for me and what didn't. I got the loans paid off in a year, which was my initial goal, so that's all well and good. But what I did not do was pay them steadily. I could have paid (roughly) $1600 a month for twelve months, around 41% of my take-home pay. Instead, I used several months of my grace period making payments of other kinds: purchasing a used car, paying off credit card expenses incurred in moving and in the wisdom teeth removal I had to have last spring, buying furniture. I didn't start making student loan payments until the end of September, with my third monthly paycheck. This already had me in a place where I'd have had to pay just under $2000 a month for ten months. But I wasn't steady at that either; I missed a month almost entirely in February to make a tax payment, and there were other months where after I'd paid off my credit card, which I wasn't really budgeting, I had much less to put to debt than I'd have liked to. In the end, I was behind enough that for the last several months, in order to meet my goal, I had to pay $2500 a month! This meant a hit to other goals: paying cash for moving expenses, starting a savings account, etc.
What I learned over the course of this last year is that if something really matters to me financially, I have to do it immediately and up front. If my goal is to pay my student loans (never again!) I have to figure out how much needs to go out, pay it as soon as a check comes in no matter what, and just do it. If my goal is retirement, same thing, I should basically never "see" that money. Because if money comes in and I think "I'll pay what I can at the end of the month," the odds are pretty good I will have found something else to spend much of it on :)
I didn't do a lot of truly frivolous spending over the past 12 months. But in retrospect, if I'd been paying out consistently on those loans every single month, before starting to spend what was left, I would have been stricter about a number of things, ranging from furniture to entertainment to food (of course, always food). It's a good thing for me to keep in mind as I embark on a lower-income year: put the money where your priorities are, first, and then figure out the discretionary spending from there.
But that sort of brings me to what I want to talk about today: what worked for me and what didn't. I got the loans paid off in a year, which was my initial goal, so that's all well and good. But what I did not do was pay them steadily. I could have paid (roughly) $1600 a month for twelve months, around 41% of my take-home pay. Instead, I used several months of my grace period making payments of other kinds: purchasing a used car, paying off credit card expenses incurred in moving and in the wisdom teeth removal I had to have last spring, buying furniture. I didn't start making student loan payments until the end of September, with my third monthly paycheck. This already had me in a place where I'd have had to pay just under $2000 a month for ten months. But I wasn't steady at that either; I missed a month almost entirely in February to make a tax payment, and there were other months where after I'd paid off my credit card, which I wasn't really budgeting, I had much less to put to debt than I'd have liked to. In the end, I was behind enough that for the last several months, in order to meet my goal, I had to pay $2500 a month! This meant a hit to other goals: paying cash for moving expenses, starting a savings account, etc.
What I learned over the course of this last year is that if something really matters to me financially, I have to do it immediately and up front. If my goal is to pay my student loans (never again!) I have to figure out how much needs to go out, pay it as soon as a check comes in no matter what, and just do it. If my goal is retirement, same thing, I should basically never "see" that money. Because if money comes in and I think "I'll pay what I can at the end of the month," the odds are pretty good I will have found something else to spend much of it on :)
I didn't do a lot of truly frivolous spending over the past 12 months. But in retrospect, if I'd been paying out consistently on those loans every single month, before starting to spend what was left, I would have been stricter about a number of things, ranging from furniture to entertainment to food (of course, always food). It's a good thing for me to keep in mind as I embark on a lower-income year: put the money where your priorities are, first, and then figure out the discretionary spending from there.
Saturday, July 5, 2014
Best laid plans
Sometimes you just have to laugh, don't you?
A few days ago I wrote a post setting some goals for July. It published on Tuesday, July 1, the day that I started my new job, but I'd written it over the weekend.
Monday night, a massive, massive storm hit my area, taking out hundreds of trees and power lines. My house and car are fine (others were not so lucky) but we did lose power for three days. It wasn't really that big of a deal in many ways; campus did keep the lights on, so I could buy breakfast and shower there, and it stays light really late here in the summer so even being at home in the evening wasn't too bad.
But July ended up starting off with (1) having to toss a garbage bag's worth of stuff from the fridge that I otherwise would have eaten; (2) buying breakfast for three mornings at $5 a pop (coffee and oatmeal) instead of eating for pennies at home; (3) more driving than I'd typically do in a week (more gas.)
Well, I guess that is why most people have emergency funds, isn't it? I, however, have $75 and I'm not touching it :) The upshot is that I'll have a smaller debt payment than planned this month, probably, as I increase my grocery budget to compensate.
The other July goal that is already toast is to contribute $1000 to my 403(b). This one is not my fault either; for boring administrative computer system reasons, even though I am already working and should get paid on time, I can't fill out my various tax forms until next week, or set up my 403(b) or direct deposit. So my first July paycheck should arrive on time, but it will be weird; it won't have anything taken out for the 403(b). I'm not sure how to handle that yet. I should end up with a bigger paycheck than I normally will; I could put the "extra" towards debt repayment, or treat it as side hustling and stick it in my Roth IRA like the rest of my side hustle money.
[ETA: I just realized what I will actually do with the one-time extra paycheck money: pay my car registration and license fees since I just moved to a new state and need to re-do everything. Alas for retirement. Well, I'll get there eventually..]
A few days ago I wrote a post setting some goals for July. It published on Tuesday, July 1, the day that I started my new job, but I'd written it over the weekend.
Monday night, a massive, massive storm hit my area, taking out hundreds of trees and power lines. My house and car are fine (others were not so lucky) but we did lose power for three days. It wasn't really that big of a deal in many ways; campus did keep the lights on, so I could buy breakfast and shower there, and it stays light really late here in the summer so even being at home in the evening wasn't too bad.
But July ended up starting off with (1) having to toss a garbage bag's worth of stuff from the fridge that I otherwise would have eaten; (2) buying breakfast for three mornings at $5 a pop (coffee and oatmeal) instead of eating for pennies at home; (3) more driving than I'd typically do in a week (more gas.)
Well, I guess that is why most people have emergency funds, isn't it? I, however, have $75 and I'm not touching it :) The upshot is that I'll have a smaller debt payment than planned this month, probably, as I increase my grocery budget to compensate.
The other July goal that is already toast is to contribute $1000 to my 403(b). This one is not my fault either; for boring administrative computer system reasons, even though I am already working and should get paid on time, I can't fill out my various tax forms until next week, or set up my 403(b) or direct deposit. So my first July paycheck should arrive on time, but it will be weird; it won't have anything taken out for the 403(b). I'm not sure how to handle that yet. I should end up with a bigger paycheck than I normally will; I could put the "extra" towards debt repayment, or treat it as side hustling and stick it in my Roth IRA like the rest of my side hustle money.
[ETA: I just realized what I will actually do with the one-time extra paycheck money: pay my car registration and license fees since I just moved to a new state and need to re-do everything. Alas for retirement. Well, I'll get there eventually..]
Tuesday, July 1, 2014
Goals for July
June was a huge month for me, but a lot of it involved just sitting around and waiting for that paycheck to hit at the end of the month. (OK, I also hung out a ton with my friends, flew across the country, drove about 1/3 of the way across the country, and got settled into a new town.
July is the reset button, as the new job starts, so I guess it's time to set some goals.
Goal #1: Figure out a workable budget once I know for sure how much take-home pay I'll have
Goal #2: Sign up to have $1000 a month put automatically into a 403(b); have first $1000 taken out.
Goal #3: $500 in side hustle income
Goal #4: Bike to work two days a week (saving gas)
Goal #5: Stick to the grocery budget I laid out (this is going to be...really tough. I'm probably going to fail at this goal
That's all I can think of at the moment. I have two trips to take this month: one to Nearby Large City to see a friend's play (total hoped for cost: $50 -- public transportation and a ticket to the play; should be able to stay with other friends) and one "back east" for my brother's wedding (total hoped for cost: $300 for plane ticket, public transportation, and incidentals; again, I get free lodging.) So there goes my travel fund contributions for July and August! Good thing I am going to be a total homebody in August and September unless an emergency crops up.
July is the reset button, as the new job starts, so I guess it's time to set some goals.
Goal #1: Figure out a workable budget once I know for sure how much take-home pay I'll have
Goal #2: Sign up to have $1000 a month put automatically into a 403(b); have first $1000 taken out.
Goal #3: $500 in side hustle income
Goal #4: Bike to work two days a week (saving gas)
Goal #5: Stick to the grocery budget I laid out (this is going to be...really tough. I'm probably going to fail at this goal
That's all I can think of at the moment. I have two trips to take this month: one to Nearby Large City to see a friend's play (total hoped for cost: $50 -- public transportation and a ticket to the play; should be able to stay with other friends) and one "back east" for my brother's wedding (total hoped for cost: $300 for plane ticket, public transportation, and incidentals; again, I get free lodging.) So there goes my travel fund contributions for July and August! Good thing I am going to be a total homebody in August and September unless an emergency crops up.
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